Wednesday, February 21, 2007

Why do men hate church?

Rodney from The Journey is discussing why men hate church. Go over there and give him your input.

We don't seem to have this problem in our church. Men volunteer to teach Sunday School, welcome visitors, to usher, to work with the youth, sing in the choir, and to do whatever needs to be done. I think that the reason we don't have this problem is that are under the authority of ruling elders and by a teaching elder, our pastor. This is a male-dominated authority structure and I believe it might make men feel more welcomed.

5 Comments:

  1. Pamela said...
    love the rose petals.

    I guess I'll have to mozey on over and read the Hate church post.
    Rachelle said...
    I've always thought this was a fascinating topic! I do think church (and in some ways, the entire Christian culture) caters more to women. There are a couple of interesting books that address this: Why Men Hate Going to Church by David Morrow. And No More Christian Nice Guy by Paul Coughlin. Great stuff if you're interested in this subject.
    Moonshadow said...
    We don't seem to have this problem in our church. This is a male-dominated authority structure and I believe it might make men feel more welcomed.

    It's tempting to think this and I don't disagree.

    This is from Presbytera Frederica Mathewes-Green's book Facing East:

    Something about Orthodoxy has immense appeal to men ... The appeal of joining this vast, ancient, rock-solid communion must be something like the appeal of joining the marines. ... It's going to demand, not death on the battlefield, but death to self in a million painful ways, and God is going to be sovereign. It's a guy thing. You wouldn't understand.

    When I asked members, "Why did you become a member?," two women used the same words, "My husband dragged me here kicking and screaming."


    I remember when our new pastor opened up the position of "altar server" to girls for, well frankly, the first time ever. Girls volunteer by the droves ... and boys don't ... anymore. This probably isn't the same type of thing, right?

    If there are more women than men in church, we must remember that women live longer. I'd like to see statistics, especially taking that into account.
    Anonymous said...
    I am new to this post. Have spent most of my life in arminism and charasmatic churches but am 5 years in reformed now. As a woman ( and a single one at that) in terms of 'masculinity' (and proably some posturing) I find men in my prior churches seem to have more characteristics that would be traditionally termed masculine than in reformed churches. Maybe because the former seem to draw more blue-colar men.
    michele said...
    That's interesting. I didn't notice a difference between the Arminian churches I've been to in the past and the one that I currently attend. I think it has something to do with the area I leave in.

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