Monday, June 19, 2006

Blogrolls

I recently had some problems with the Blogging Chicks Blogroll. One of the women left the blogroll because she was upset that I screened the blogs for excessive swearing. Maybe she should start her own blogroll, I think that would be smart. Lauren has the Family-Friendly Blogroll and I haven't seen "The Potty-Mouth Blogroll" yet. I think it has a catchy ring, don't you? I don't plan to start another blogroll, so feel free to use the name.

9 Comments:

  1. nurse_andi said...
    Michelle, I lost your e-mail but I was wondering if you could comment on my life a little. I am currently married to a felony sex offender who has been in prison or jail for the last 4 1/2 years. It is getting harder and harder to imagine a future together and I think that I am going to divorce him. I feel like I have Biblical reason for divorce and even though it breaks my heart to see him hurt and to lose the friendship like I think I will, I finally think I am ready. Unfortunately I no longer think that if we have love we can get through anything. We have been married since 1997 and I still care very deeply for him. He doesn't get out until Feb '09. I have not, am not and do not think I ever will be in danger from him.
    Gem said...
    When I was reading your updates to the criteria, I wondered if you were getting complaints from both sides -- those who think you're censoring and those who think you allow too many non-Christian blogs and those with the occasional profanity. I think this group is pretty diverse and gets along quite well, considering! Sometimes I'm surprised at the opinions, lifestyles, or subject matter of some of the blogs, but then I just skip along to the next one, no problem! Thanks for putting this all together, I've found lots of blogs I might not have happened upon otherwise.
    michele said...
    nurse_andi, I'm sorry it has taken so long to reply. Talk to your pastor, he would be a much better person to talk to than someone on a blog. He has training for this type of stuff and I don't. You need real world guidance and I could suggest something and it may be advice that would get you disciplined.

    I will say this, I believe that the only biblical mandate for divorce is infidelity.
    michele said...
    gem, yes, I have been getting it from both sides! Two women left over the profanity and two left over the "censorship."

    I agree that this blogroll is very diverse, that's what I like about it. It would be boring otherwise :-).
    nurse_andi said...
    Michele,

    I have met some of the elders in my church and they are going to meet with me again soon. We are currently without a pastor.

    I am a little sick of the "we'll support you whichever way you decide to go" response. I keep hoping that someone can convince me to stay in my marriage but I really think it is over. My husband not only raped someone but had a couple of emotional affairs and when we lived seperately for about 2 months had an emotional and physical affair. Granted, that was all 4 1/2 years ago and I truly believe he has repented but I just can't do this anymore.

    I feel like I have been dragging the rock filled sled of our marriage up a long mountain and even though the reasons I chose to let go of the rope are not in and of themselves very big issues, it is hard to even think of grabbing ahold and starting that process over again. Not to mention that it feels like the sled has started its descent down the mountain and I don't want to run after it and climb even this far again.

    Thank you for listening. I have lots of support in my life now and that may be one of the reasons I feel ok making this decision but it still is hard and heart-breaking. I hate that I am even in the position to consider it.

    Andrea
    michele said...
    Elders are fine but it would be nice if you actually had a pastor to help. They usually have training to council. If they are supportive, then at least you won't have to face discipline. I will pray that the Lord will give you guidance. It's hard for me to suggest anything. Is your husband really repentant or is he repentant because he has no choice (caught and in jail and no opportunity to be with anyone else), only you would know if you can trust him.

    There are Christians who have been trained for biblical counciling, do you know of anyone like that in your area? My email address is on the sidebar of my blog, email me and maybe I could help you find someone in the area that you are in. I think you would really benefit from it even if you do feel comfortable with your decision.
    Mama Duck said...
    I think you are doing the right thing with the blogroll - if people don't like it, they can go elsewhere, I think you would lose more than you gained by changing your standards.
    Beth said...
    I left because I didn't feel the need to censor myself when I posted something that happened in my life, or, found something amusing. So many people today call themselves Christians-yet don't act the part. We aren't perfect. Some are more colorful, as I'll put it, than others when writing posts. Apparently all of you found my blog offensive since no one, other than Michele who was most likely scanning for content she didn't agree with, ever commented to gave me one word of encouragement. This is why I gave up on reading other blogs. There was no point. The person you decide isn't worthy of your time today-could be the person who saves your life tomorrow.
    michele said...
    I never visited you blog to inspect it for content, I enjoyed reading your blog until you decided to spend so much of your time on redneck humor.

    This blogroll isn't just made up of Christians alone, there is a wide range of people (go check out the blogroll if you don't believe me) so blaming your lack of readers on us isn't exactly fair.

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